Finding the Joy of Reading

I remember their beaming smiles, the excitement of becoming ‘big girls’. An initiation into a world until then mysterious and unknown. Books. Learning to read. A key milestone in education. Where one of my daughters had excelled in her first academic year, it all came crashing down in the following one. She developed an aversion…

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Feeling: touch and emotion

What emotions do you recall from the last touch you felt from or gave to another? Recently I was pondering the relationship between touch and emotion following a meditation. During it I had been prompted to breathe out into my heart space and as I did so I felt myself swaying towards an imagined touch…

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Conflict resolution

I didn’t know if I would publish this, and I’m a day late, but here I am anyway. I’m worrying what people will think, but nothing changes. Deep breath… As many people have been, I’ve spent the last week or so mulling over the results of the US election and thinking about how things are a…

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Describe yourself…

How do you describe yourself? Is it about your roles or jobs, your appearance, what you like or dislike, or something else? Some descriptors are easier to use…mother, wife…They are based on fact, rather than anything else. But even then some descriptions still have values attached to them – ‘stay at home mum’, ‘housewife’ anyone?…

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Emotion and empathy

Emotional literacy is so important. A lesson I learned the hard way. Before counselling, feeling the physicality of emotion and describing it was very hard for me. I hadn’t realised how much that was a problem and holding everything in had made me ill. It ended in a breakdown. The silence. The mute lay in…

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What I learned from NOT writing

My to-do list doesn’t yet seem to be shrinking, despite the back to school breathing space of the past week. As fast as I cross things off, more gets added. So I have decided to write instead. The prerogative of a mother with children out of the house. I spent my summer putting off writing,…

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Pressing pause…

‘Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone’ W.H. Auden Time is a funny thing. I’ve taken that quote slightly out of context of the original poem, but the line still expresses something I am feeling right now. I often want to pause; to not move on but to stay exactly where I am, in…

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Parenting Tools: Routine

I really hope I am not opening a can of worms here. The concept of routine is one of those parenting debates that polarises. You have on one hand the military precision of forcing a baby or child to do exactly what you want when you want, and on the other the airy-fairy, vagueness of…

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Making bedtime calmer with relaxation

Bedtime in any house with young children can be fraught with obstacles. Everybody is tired. It’s easy to lose patience. It’s easy for children to get wound up, hyperactive and bouncing off the walls. Even with the best will in the world, it can turn to Armageddon. Wouldn’t it be nice to find a way…

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Sabotage by comparison

I can’t tell you the number of times since I started blogging that I have written a fantastic post and then literally days or even hours after I hit publish, I find myself reading something else on exactly the same subject, eloquent and engaging. And suddenly my post pales into insignificance. I don’t have to…

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