Are all the good intentions that were light and fluffy at the start of the month are still that way? Or have become that noose around your neck? I don’t make too many changes (especially big) at the start of the year. As a rule I’m not in favour of the ‘resolution’, preferring goals, which guide you through life, not just the start of the year.
This blog was started as a sounding board for my thoughts and feelings regarding my mental health and parenting. I hoped I would find the answer of how to raise children who would grow up into happy adults. The answer is a work in progress, as life tends to be. But what has come to the forefront is making my life a positive mental environment for me.
Pictures to words
One of those practices has been my gratitude journal on IG and here as a regular post. And now since the start of the year I have been using a diary to write three things that I am grateful for at the end of a day, as well as my overall mood index (according to my own scale).
Already I have been able to look back through the diary and use it as a memory prompt for happy times, for times I have seen the positive in the negative. I am grateful I can monitor and see the truth of the pattern of my emotions.
At times I have felt the drag of January, the torment of female hormones and overwhelm of a large scale project. But I can see that beyond all of that, my mood has been stable and positive. I need to know that. The spiralling effect of negative thoughts is a syndrome I am well aware of. And the perception of memory can be deceiving.
And on top of this I am grateful for being able to keep this up for a whole month! Habits are not a strength of mine. I chose deliberately not to overload myself with lots of new things at the start of January. It is a small step but I need this habit. If I can do one thing, then gradually I can apply this daily discipline to other things too. Perhaps my diary can be a launch pad for other habits too.
Moving into February, I am looking forward to the approach of spring. The anticipation is a positive force for me. Research shows that significant positive psychological benefit from a holiday comes from the anticipation of it, rather than the actual holiday. And I’m guessing that this effect extends to other events. In February I will be planning!
Do you keep a diary? And are you planning anything exciting?