After I recently published my post introducing my concept of empowered parenting and what it meant to me, I had a conversation with one of my friends. She asked me what I wanted to achieve by my cause, and I realised that whilst I wrote about the what, and some of the why, I thought it was important, I didn’t focus on outcome.
There is part of me that I think avoided that; both because of the enormity of what I would love to happen, and the diminishment of myself to such a size that I believe I could not possibly have any impact on such an outcome. I am my own worst enemy for my confidence; self –promotion will never be my strong point.
And yet here I am, making some noise and I am making a difference.
Since I have started doing more promotion of my posts, particularly within my existing social sphere, I have found so much support. People have sent me messages, people have written me notes, people have started a conversation with me (either of the ’I’m so glad there is someone else who feels like this’ or of the ‘I didn’t know you had a time when things were so bad’ varieties).
And that massively validates the purpose of my writing on this subject, that what I am aiming for is the right path to be taking. I have said before that talking and being open is the best way forward, and I think this applies on both a personal and a societal level. Pushing this concept, through my writing and the promotion of it, is taking it to that higher level.
So my big grand, or crazy, goal (however you see it), is to eliminate depression beyond my children’s generation. I see that there are many things that make this wild and unrealistic, however you will understand from my manifesto where that comes from. I know that it is not a job that I can do by myself, but I do see that I can be part of it, and yes, I believe it is possible.
A reader who was not a parent commented about my posts being relevant to everyone. I am glad they are, and I really want that. It is so hard to be everything to everyone, and the reason that I focus so much on parents and childhood is that I really see that they have such a large role to play in the potential for depression.
Parents are there from the start, generally the single biggest influence in a person’s life. What happens in childhood can affect that person in perpetuity. A negative influence has to be unlearned to ensure happiness. I know how emotional instability feels and instead of a problem that needs fixing I want people to avoid it completely.
However I am struggling with writing for this project. Because it cannot be always right for every person and because it feels like I am trying to sell something, which and in some ways I suppose I am. But I want what I write to flow from the tips of my fingers, rather than be constantly fighting it, chopping and changing, or feeling awkward.
But I realise I am not forcing anyone to read what I write, there are many people out there who do want to read it. And those who are not interested, don’t. I sat down and let this flow out of me, and here it is, my thoughts on making a difference. I suppose it boils down to worrying about what people think, I am simply facing that fear and not letting it control me.
I would like to urge you today to think about what makes you ‘tick’ or what you think really needs to change in your life or the world and follow that passion, try to make a difference, however small you believe your influence to be, I can tell you it is larger than you think. By doing something, you will do more to make that change happen than by doing nothing.
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