The Filling Glass has been a new chapter in my life and I have written about how I much I have learned in the last six months about me, myself and my life; lots of food for thought, a new sense of definition, and now, a vision of the new life that I want to lead.
I have learned that I have to pursue things that make me happy, things that excite me, give me vitality and verve for living. There is no point in ‘a life half lived’ *flashback – to Strictly Ballroom, that Baz Luhrmann classic, for my sins!*. A life with something held back. A life full of regrets and unfollowed dreams.
The perspective I come from is not one of unbridled success, but rather that of the unproven. Someone searching for achievement, who until recently felt that they had not done much so far in life, but who has now renewed their desire and passion to make ‘it’ happen in their life.
New Year is typically the time for resolutions, but I feel that these are fixed upon specific things that we want to be different; lose weight, give something up, try to gain something that is missing, without looking at the background or purpose behind it.
I prefer to concentrate on my ongoing pursuit of happiness and reasons for living. This sounds very grand, but it doesn’t have to be, in effect it is simply my life goals. I see them as steps on my path, rather than the end of the game.
We have to resist the temptation to want or expect our goals to be things ‘completed’ by next week. You cannot achieve everything all at once, and in fact that would probably not be very satisfactory, after all the pleasure is in the journey as well as the arrival.
Goals are useful for longer-term guidance but I don’t forget the smaller, bitesize building blocks of these goals to make us be able to focus on specific actions and allow them to be achievable. Moulding my journey using this principle has allowed me to take baby steps towards that life I want to lead.
It can be scary to write things down formally – that critical voice again rears its head to say; you can’t do that, you won’t succeed, that sounds insignificant. I think most of us all have those negative thoughts, but we can delete them, they don’t have to win.
No one can stop you except yourself, and no one can achieve for you, only you can. You can either live the life you want or not. But nothing will happen if you don’t try. So go ahead, make your plans, visualise your dream life and then make it happen. In my experience, when you believe in yourself and your dreams, so will others.
I know that I may never achieve all of my desires in life; things may change, events may happen, I may need to adjust them or adopt different goals. Resolutions are too much of a flash-in-the-pan, but goals will continue to positively guide my direction and purpose.
In trying to achieve what I want, I will be happy, my glass will be overflowing, every day of the life that I have.